Showing posts with label online dating woes. Show all posts
Showing posts with label online dating woes. Show all posts

Friday, October 26, 2007

Know when to give up; don't stay too long at the fair

[now with spelling errors and typos corrected :)]

Because some idiocy deserves to be called out, I'll tell you the following:

Case Study #1

Remember the guy I mentioned who wrote to me a week or so ago? The one whose overture I took as a confirmation that I should indeed be putting myself back in the dating circuit? You might also recall, then, that I said that either he'd written to me before and I didn't respond (b/c I wasn't interested), or I simply remembered his profile (and wasn't interested).

This person wrote to me again last night. This time his note was antagonistic. He wondered if I was too booshey [sic] to answer him. He went on to conjecture that if he'd mentioned having a lexus and a lot of "bling," I might have responsded to him. "LOL."

Case Study #2

During my first online dating stint last spring there was a man with whom I exchanged a few e-mails--mostly because he asked me lots of questions and filled his notes with all sorts of trilly compliments that it would have been awkward to leave unacknowledged. I wasn't interested in this person and he never asked me out (I was grateful for that--because of the aforementioned lack of interest). Well, he also wrote to me again last night. I've been inactive on this site since April! My profile has only been searchable [again] for a few days (though I don't currently subscribe, so I can't really respond to anyone, except in the most limited capacity)!

I didn't even read his message. The truncated version that I could see without clicking on it:

"You BEAM with intelligence!"

I have been hesitant to get hooked back up with this site just because it's a little demoralizing to be seen fishing the same river twice. Many of the men from my last go-round are still there. Maybe I won't subscribe. Maybe I'll try my luck in another venue. Not EHarmony, though. I can tell you that much. I'm not into their system (or their commercials which oh so subtly imply that "compatibility" always means dating someone of the exact same race).